More Thoughts on Marriage
One Accord…
Being on one accord and united doesn’t mean you won’t
have disagreements. It means the
disagreements won’t come between you.
Communication is often thought to be the most important
thing in a marriage. We have to
communicate to have a good relationship.
Couples having problems will say, “We are not communicating.” I have a different take on that. I think that there is always
communication. When one is not talking,
he or she is saying, “I don’t want to talk to you right now.” Unfriendly body language is communicating
displeasure. Everyday couples walk into
court communicating loud and clear, “I want a divorce.”
The problem is not a lack of communication. It is a a
lack of connection.When you stop connecting with each other, the communication
turns sour. Where there is connection,
there is good communication. Remember, communication comes in many forms:
talking; touching; the way you look at each other; just quietly experiencing
each other’s presence and many more. When these acts of communication come out
of true connection, then they are good and strengthening to bond of
relationship. When they come out of a
broken connection, then they can be hurtful, indifferent, argumentative,
bitter, hateful and destructive to the relationship. Good connection results in
good communication. Also it is important
to be able to understand and accept how
your spouse communicates. You may say “I
love you” with words. Your spouse may say it with an act of love. They both say, “I love you.”
Late night thoughts of an old preacher.
